I’ve read in many different places and heard from many sources about how adults feel like this generation of children need to be “handled”. Many people believe our children’s behaviors are out of control. Are we here to “control” other humans though? I happen to not share those sentiments. Here’s a question: Do you know that every generation before this one had their predecessors say the very same thing about them? So does that mean that everyone who has ever existed was out of control? Maybe things are exactly how they are supposed to be. Life is about change and progression.
Most people apparently don’t embrace change well. Some see change as this big bad “devil” or something that isn’t supposed to be happening because they don’t like it and/or it’s not what they’re accustomed to. In my experience, I discovered that life isn’t about our comfort. In the face of discomfort is where the greatest blessings emerge from. Most don’t see it as such because we’re too busy resisting.
I feel that each generation comes to bring a different light into the world. There can’t be light without “darkness”. When will the elder generation realize that light and dark are two sides of the same coin? Life can’t exist without both. I feel that our younger generations are here to heal rather than harm even if it doesn’t seem that way to those who don’t understand. They came to break down this rigid system of beliefs and rules that are no longer necessary and that no longer work. It’s highly possible that the behaviors of this generation anger people so much because they actually trigger emotions and thoughts that they themselves harbor and/or suppress from past instances in which they may have been hurt.
One of my favorite quotes from Dr. Wayne Dyer is: “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life”. Have you thought to change your perspective on things and tried to be more understanding and less resistant to the changes that are happening with each generation? We don’t grow without change. Life progresses whether we like it or not.
Does this generation need to be handled? I say no! I say the parents raising the children need to pay more attention to them. They need to offer them more love and understanding instead of trying to mold them in ways that are convenient for themselves rather than in their child’s best interest.
Parenting can be more than frustrating at times, but also deeply rewarding. I have two children of my own and there have been and will be many frustrating moments. We make the choice to bring these people into the world. They are not ours to own and mold into who we want them to be. Children are individuals who need our guidance so that they may grow to be thriving, self-sufficient, and loving adults in a society that strives to make them all the same.
We sometimes project our own inner weaknesses onto children instead of dealing with them head on. By looking within, we’re forced to see and deal with that hurt and weakness. Every parent does the best they can with what they have. I truly believe that. When you don’t have love for self you can’t give love. It’s much easier to blame the children of this generation than to look at yourselves and see your role in what’s happening. I feel that things happen exactly as they’re supposed to. LIFE is what’s happening and some have gotten so comfortable with only one part of life that they refuse to accept the other parts. God/Life/Source doesn’t make mistakes. If you really believe that, how can you say that anything is “right” or “wrong”? God is everything and everywhere. It’s not exclusive to those who “believe” or call it by a certain name. Look within and allow life to happen. See how by “handling” yourself you can heal what’s “broken”. Passing judgment on others (children or otherwise) won’t do the job.
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